2017

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2016 was awful.

It sent me into a depressive spiral.
People told me, "2017 will be better. It cant get any worse."

WRONG. Amongst the most chronic * Ive had to deal in 2017, was being put through hell at work. Theyre covering their asses, and so Ive become the goat. Ive been having to defend and advocate for myself on a daily basis. Its disgusting; they know what theyre doing is wrong. But theyre determined to put me back in my place.

Im sure to be fired soon. Thats fine with me. The stress, after enduring more than a half a year of what amounts to personal attacks and them * with me in general, has gotten to me. Ill be damned if I dont go out fighting, though.
They never expected a fight, period. Employers now want to rule your professional and personal lives by gilling ypu with fear; they want you to be subservient.

We need another revolution in this country.
We revere work to an unhealthy level. And we've definitely given over too much of our power to the workplace CEOs, Directors, managers, Destroyers of Worlds, et al.

Heres a radical thought: Our work should not be our lives.
Your job should not be the exlusive priority of your life.

Tl;dr. My car has also been hit. Then my rental car. Two car accidents in one week. ( both were the other driver's fault).
And Occupational Health wont approve me for work.

AND my short tailed opossum escaped.

I know; youre prolly thinking, First world problems. But you know who's not? That god damned possum.


Ok; this thread is for the people who had an even louseier year than the one before it.

List all the * thrown your way in 2017 and we'll toast to it:
May 2017 rest in pieces,in the deepest bowels of hell

[jthou]

Keep your head up. As far as work goes this was me about 4 years ago. Despite working 80+ hours a week and achieving successes my teams had not seen before I was still being heavily criticized and told I wasn't good enough. They even questioned my dedication and loyalty. That went on for about 2 years. I finally left and I can tell you it's not worth fighting on the way out because when they want you gone, you'll be gone and the only headache you create is for yourself. I suggest you leave that job and find some balance in your life. I was married to my job while actually being married. I swore I'd never let my job get in the way of life again. I missed too many birthdays, anniversaries, family events, weddings etc. I haven't since. I still work long hours, about 60 hours a week now but no longer will I ever put work first. I'm lucky enough to have a boss that believes that too. He tells us to go home, and reminds us that what we do is just a job. It's a good feeling. Try and find the same. I held on way too long fighting the inevitable and was miserable the entire time.

[NaptimeNancy]

Yes, keep your head up and stay strong! Well said Jthou and I'm glad you have found a new workplace that cares for you! I truly believe you're going to find a much better place to work Cerulean. In the meantime, knowing the extent of the abuse you have endured by that company, I say fight them legally. I would bet you've already done this but start a log of dates detailing the harrassment/abuse you have experienced.

Regarding the opossum...I really hope that's not code for your sweet pup! I hope they are found asap! 😟

Yes, 2017 was a bunch of bullshit though, I agree. The bitterness I attempt to suppress that my aunt passed at just 50 years old and her abuser is still kicking and has molded my grandmother into a submissive monster is too much to process at times. The fact that this puke is protected by Statute of Limitations is beyond disgusting. But I am trying to so hard to push forward. Thankfully I know I have some pretty wonderful people to lean on for support. Many of them are on this very board!

You are a smart, hilarious, compassionate person and I'm proud to call you a friend. Keep you're head up and keep fighting. Things are going to get better, I truly believe that.

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Nov 18, 2017 14:13:22 GMT jthou said:

Keep your head up. As far as work goes this was me about 4 years ago. Despite working 80+ hours a week and achieving successes my teams had not seen before I was still being heavily criticized and told I wasn't good enough. They even questioned my dedication and loyalty. That went on for about 2 years. I finally left and I can tell you it's not worth fighting on the way out because when they want you gone, you'll be gone and the only headache you create is for yourself. I suggest you leave that job and find some balance in your life. I was married to my job while actually being married. I swore I'd never let my job get in the way of life again. I missed too many birthdays, anniversaries, family events, weddings etc. I haven't since. I still work long hours, about 60 hours a week now but no longer will I ever put work first. I'm lucky enough to have a boss that believes that too. He tells us to go home, and reminds us that what we do is just a job. It's a good feeling. Try and find the same. I held on way too long fighting the inevitable and was miserable the entire time.

These are some of the nastiest c**ts, that I work for. Walking personality disorders. Damage goes both ways. I was on their * list before I spoke up. And I wouldnt want their goddamned references on a good day. Theyre toxic people and widely despised. They ve been pulling the same * for years, I found out to late. Its going to cat h up with them in a big way,and I aim to do my part in making that happen.
Frankly, the world would be a much better place if employees did stand up and fight back. 60hrs a week is still too many hours. Youre being robbed of a day of your life, each week. Finding well paying jobs that dont suck the life out of you are rarer than you think, these days.

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Tl;dr. My pup saved the opossum. (Not a metaphor )

[NaptimeNancy]

Nov 18, 2017 18:26:22 GMT cerulean said:

Nov 18, 2017 15:33:52 GMT NaptimeNancy said:

Yes, keep your head up and stay strong! Well said Jthou and I'm glad you have found a new workplace that cares for you! I truly believe you're going to find a much better place to work Cerulean. In the meantime, knowing the extent of the abuse you have endured by that company, I say fight them legally. I would bet you've already done this but start a log of dates detailing the harrassment/abuse you have experienced.

Regarding the opossum...I really hope that's not code for your sweet pup! I hope they are found asap! 😟

Yes, 2017 was a bunch of bullshit though, I agree. The bitterness I attempt to suppress that my aunt passed at just 50 years old and her abuser is still kicking and has molded my grandmother into a submissive monster is too much to process at times. The fact that this puke is protected by Statute of Limitations is beyond disgusting. But I am trying to so hard to push forward. Thankfully I know I have some pretty wonderful people to lean on for support. Many of them are on this very board!

You are a smart, hilarious, compassionate person and I'm proud to call you a friend. Keep you're head up and keep fighting. Things are going to get better, I truly believe that.

My dog's doing fine. Sorry to worry you, mrs. I actually had a short tailed opossum. Tl;dr, I came across some *s who surrendered her because she bit. She's about the size of a hamster, with a big triangular 'possum head, and 50 tiny teeth. The bites dont break the skin. She was mishandled with them, so a bit skittish. We had developed a bond, she trusted me (and would curl up between by boobs); so I am feeling guilty and terrible that she gotten out and probably into harm. Its day two now and she's more than likely dying if she hasnt drunken or eaten from my dog's bowl. I have live traps out with water and her favoritw food, but she hasnt been by them. If she isnt dead than shes deyhydrated and probably not making her tiny noises. No poop trail, either. If my dog was the one who opened her cage, that wouldve been something she wouldnt have eaten. And possibly her fur and skull.

Oh wow, sorry to hear that. Hope your little friend turns up alive and well

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Taught my pup to track again and this time she found her! Ha!
Im going to write you later in PM. I got your mail <3

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Jthou, Thank you for your advice support. Losing my marsupial was thw last straw for me in a surreal horribly shitty week, in an awesomely shitty year.
And speaking of awesomely shitty, arent you the poster who lived through hurricane harvey? Howd that go? I hope you and yours got out unscathed. No alligators on your patio or such?

[NaptimeNancy]

Nov 18, 2017 19:13:15 GMT cerulean said:

Taught my pup to track again and this time she found her! Ha!
Im going to write you later in PM. I got your mail <3

Oh yay, that's great news!! B to the rescue!

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Nov 18, 2017 22:06:22 GMT NaptimeNancy said:

Nov 18, 2017 19:13:15 GMT cerulean said:

Taught my pup to track again and this time she found her! Ha!
Im going to write you later in PM. I got your mail <3

Oh yay, that's great news!! B to the rescue!

Yes,indeed; Queen B!

The thought struck me that trained tracking dogs wouldve probably solved the EAR crime. in the first cluster of attacks. EAR returned to the scenes of his crime, like a lot of psychopaths. He touched things and left something behind at nearly all the crime scenes. And like with my jackhuahua, the dog needn't have been a hound.

If he had lived a street or so over, he'd have immediately been busted by giving a working dog the scent and command. And if a dog had been given the go to walk the neighborhood daily, they would have found his track through other potential future victims yards or up trees, roofs, etc.

Why are dogs just used as a one-shot deal for major crimes or drugs; or way too late in serial crimes, after scores of prople have been harmed?

Or broken into/robbed? Consider that a high percentage of robberies and break-in crimes are done by neighbors. They know your schedule. But I bet most of them are dumb enough to not think your dog might lead their trail back to them. EAR let the dogs at an attack scene live.* Someone so paranoid of getting caught that he turned off appliances while in the homes? Did he not live close by? Was he ignorant of the fact that any dogs can track?

Or just banking on the fact that most people dont train them to track? He supposedly hit homes with hounds who supposedly didnt make a peep. Was he feeding them successively over days? Those dogs wpuld have had an even bigger reason to track him down, then. Was he wearing big predator scent on his shoes, like bear? Why wasnt that looked into. Supposedly the scent dogs used were acting weird at some crime scences. Why wasnt that followed up on, to see what exactly kind of thing the dogs were reacting to? Drugs? Bodily abnormalties? Another animal scent? Predator scent might scare some house dogs into initial confusion, but it wont stop a dog from tracking it.

Anyway, dogs are under-used by LE, which is geared to solve crimes, not potentially
stop them before they notice a pattern/series. Id pay for the latter, if it could be proven to work. Additionally, training should be offered to the community. Because when EAR kicked off, it took them 8 attacks before it was broached as a series of crimes. And that was after 2:3 of the first homes hit, were so close that they had touching yards. And they still did not want to warn the community.


*Except for the possible EAR attack where a lap dog was kicked to death. However the reason was theorized that the dog bit him from under the owners bed and not because it would potentially narc on him.

[jthou]

Nov 18, 2017 19:20:42 GMT cerulean said:

Jthou, Thank you for your advice support. Losing my marsupial was thw last straw for me in a surreal horribly shitty week, in an awesomely shitty year.
And speaking of awesomely shitty, arent you the poster who lived through hurricane harvey? Howd that go? I hope you and yours got out unscathed. No alligators on your patio or such?

Yes that was me. Thankfully I came through 100% unscathed mostly due to living over 30 stories up. I can't say the same for friends. A lot of people I know lost vehicles and had anywhere from a few inches of water in their homes, to their homes being completely submerged. It was a terrible year for many around here and I'm not sure how they're doing it. I've had some bad times, we all have in our lives but the resilience of the people around here is truly impressive. Cheers to a better 2018, good luck to you and finding a better situation.